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Guard your heart

I recently had a conversation with two men who are walking through some challenging situations with their teenage daughters and dating. I have four little girls all under eight years old, so I have to admit that the conversation felt a bit ominous for me. As their dad, God has entrusted me with their protection. Every single day I thank God for this privilege and responsibility. At the same time, the reality is that we live in a fallen world, and no matter how good of a job that I do as a loving, protective father, my daughters will still experience some of level hurt in this life. This means I can’t protect them from everything, which makes it all the more important for me to train them to have a right view of their own hearts in relationship to Jesus.

The wisdom in the cliché

There’s a well-known verse in Proverbs that gets quoted often, especially to younger girls who are entering the age of dating and relationships.

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

 Proverbs 4:23 (NIV 1984)

When this verse is quoted, there’s a tendency—particularly for those of us who, like myself, grew up in the church—to hear it as a Christian cliché. This verse is so familiar to many people that it sounds hollow. But all Scripture is breathed out by God and is profitable (2 Tim. 3.16), so we know that God gave us this verse for our good. When it comes to the Bible, we must be careful to not let familiarity cause complacency. Even if we’ve heard it a thousand times, every verse in the Bible is full of wisdom and power from the Holy Spirit. So how should all of us approach this verse in our own day-to-day lives?

The heart in Scripture

The Bible talks a lot about our hearts. In our culture, we primarily use “heart” to speak of emotions, but biblical writers used it in a much wider sense.

Biblically speaking, the heart is the totality of who we are inside: our emotions, our intellect, our desires, and our will. The words we speak flow out of our hearts (Matt. 12:34). The choices we make flow out of our hearts. In salvation (John 1:12–13), Christ takes our dead heart of stone and gives us a new heart of flesh (Ezek. 36:26). Guarding our hearts in this context means paying careful attention to our thoughts, our emotions, our desires, and our choices.

Two ditches

There are two ways we can get sidetracked when it comes to our application of this proverb. Here are two ditches not to fall into.

Ditch #1: Self-protection

The first error we can make is to guard our hearts in such a way that there is no possible way we can get hurt. We keep relationships shallow, people at arm’s length, and anyone from getting to know us at the heart level. The Bible is the most honest book ever written—it makes no claim that if we “guard our heart” we will avoid pain and heartache in this life (1 Peter 1:6–7). It is simply not God’s will for us to be isolated, walled off, and invulnerable.

Ditch #2: Careless

The second error is to simply ignore this practical wisdom. We can be cavalier, putting ourselves in a position to be hurt unnecessarily. We share information with people who aren’t trustworthy (Prov. 11:13). We invest ourselves in sinful romantic relationships. We don’t listen to warnings from Christian brothers and sisters (Col. 1:28). We live in a fallen world and we have a very real enemy whose desire is to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10). It is God’s will for us to be watchful, sober-minded, and on guard against the enemy’s schemes (1 Peter 5:8).

Jesus guards the heart

There’s another verse in the Bible that speaks of our hearts being guarded—but not by us.

And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:7 (emphasis added)

Rather than leaving us to protect our hearts on our own strength, God has already provided that protection in Jesus.

On the cross, Jesus made himself—and his heart—vulnerable to the worst kind of hurt and betrayal. His disciples ran away. His immediate family hung their heads in embarrassment. His critics mocked and gloated. Even his heavenly Father, the first person of the Trinity, turned his face and forsook his Son. Jesus did this so that hurting, sinful, broken men and women like us could receive the gift of salvation.

In Christ, I can tell my daughters that they don’t need to wall up or “guard their hearts” in that selfish, self-protective sense. They also don’t have to foolishly expose their hearts to pain and devastation. They have an invitation from God to run to him, to pray, to ask him to come to their aid, to cry out when they’re hurting. In that place, they will find their heart’s ultimate protection in Jesus. And so will you and I.

The LORD is my strength and my shield; in him my heart trusts, and I am helped; my heart exults, and with my song I give thanks to him.

Psalm 28:7

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